The situation is this: A friend of mine, a passive-aggressive controller, recently had a stroke. A person with passive-aggressive behavior disorder uses methods to control the situation, and other people, that do not outwardly appear to be abusive, but believe me, they are. With the disability inherent to a stroke, there is a whole new realm of control available to a manipulative controller. Now, this person needs a lot of personal, physical assistance. This translates to other people being very solicitous of the victim's needs and requires some pretty intense effort by the caretaker(s) on behalf of the victim of the stroke. The question is, how can a person who has a behavioral disorder that requires manipulation and control of other people and who has recently discovered a new and powerful means of controlling other people, how can that person heal? Healing would cause that power to be diminished over time as the effects of the stroke improved. Anyone have any insights how to deal with a situation like this? Thanks for any help.